Saturday, September 20, 2008
How Close Should Your Best Friend and Your Lover Actually Be?
Your best friend in the entire world. Someone you would give your last dollar to, trust with your inner most secrets, and go to battle for if they needed you! But, how secure are you?? What are the fine lines between being friendly and flirty?? How well do you want them to actually get along with your mate. So the question of the day " If your best friend and your mate started to develop their own friendship, how would you react to it and why"? Would you take the stance of "I am soooo glad the two most important people in my life are getting along"! Or would it be more like "What the f*#k is going on in this mamma-jamma"! Keep it real and think about the question..... If conversations were being had without you around and maybe even plans to get together. How secure are you with your friendship/relationship, or is it even a matter of security? It may just be a matter of some fine lines and respect. Or point blank you may not trust the two of them together. Key in and let us know what's on your mind. And remember..... Keep it Real!
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I'm going to kick start this one. Just from past experience dealing with my bff and her men, my personal rule of thumb is "Don't go there". For a number of different reasons... One, I have been pleasant and relatively cool with all of my friends spouses, however, I keep myself at a reasonable distance and make it clear "I am her friend, not your's". That keeps a lot of the b.s. to a minimum. I don't make them comfortable enough to question me and I don't put up any fronts so that they know exactly where I stand. Plus, as cool and nice as I am, they have to know that if they hurt her,I turn into a different individual (even though I usually threaten them early on, they know for sure I am not playing the radio). If I am all buddied up with them, then they might be confused when I end up pouring acid on their new whip or kidnapping their momma's dog. Sh*t happens! And when you hurt a friend of mine, I mean really hurt them, I take it very personal. Anyway, back to the subject at hand. We can be cool but I would never put myself in a position where my intentions could be misunderstood. When it comes to human nature, I prefer not to put myself in situations that may come back later on and bite me in the booty. And as for the flip side, how would I feel if my bff and spouse started to develop a friendship?? Hmmmm, haven't you been listening to me?? Don't you have any insight to my crazy thought pattern by now?? It would never happen. I would be beyond uncomfortable and in short... I learned early on... keep your friends and your man as separate as oil and water. I don't need to catch any charges and I'm sure neither prefer to get cut based on a misunderstanding. Just my opinion though :<)
Been there & aint bout to do it ever again. Like
Aretha said, "I don't won't no body sitting & chit chatting with my man". See yal, I'ma tell you the real deal. Some of you may not believe but others will understand where I'm coming from. If you won't to keep your man.....Don't let him get to close to your best friend, your something hang out fiend, your next door neighbor, your kids friends momma, the pasters wife, your cousins, sister-in-laws, your sister or your momma! That's right, I said it! Women are scandalist & men are weak. I know from personal experience! Heffa bringing my man food at his job, in my kitchen doing my girls hair, in my bedroom by his side cause he claimed he was sick. Yah people like the old saying goes, "keep your friends close & the enemy even closer". Well when it comes to your man, every women is your enemy. WATCH THEM BITCHES!
my bf and my bff have never got along so I am good. And personally I wouldn't them to be close friends. I need to express things to both of them at separate times. Like if he working my nerves i need to tell my bff but know she aint about to text him and say wtf is wrong u gettin on Tee's nerves...LOL so they will be separate like politics & church
WOW what a question……If you are given a chance to have a BFF then consider yourself blessed. If you are given the chance to have a LOVE of your life then consider yourself blessed…………You have two people that is so important to your life, have been there through thick and thin, know you like no other. They should be the bridge between you heart……..NOW if you have to keep them separate, keep your eye on them, not leave them alone in a room, become upset if you see them talking with one another……..Then they are not your BFF nor the LOVE of your life. SEE REAL TALK, IF THEY ARE YOUR BFF AND THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE , THERE SHOULD BE TRUST/ LOYALTY…………So I said all that to say if I don’t trust you we do not have any type of relationship. PERIOD……I refuse to waste my time or life surrounding myself with people I can not trust. Most of all I WILL NOT allow BULLSHIT in my life no matter what shape, color, sex, or size.
Great question.
In the past I would have no problem with my best friend and woman being good friends, but after having caught my ex and former best friend in bed together, I will be the first to tell anyone asking for my advice - seperate the two.
I understand all people are not the same, and I shouldn't 'think this way.' But I'd rather be safe than sorry, in the future. As you should.
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